5 Things which helps to stop pleasing everyone and live your life

Hello everyone!!! Many times in our life we pretend like we are doing what we like but actually we are just pretending:) yes we all do it... so pretending and pleasing is a different word but when u pretend to be happy Ur not happy the same way if Ur pleasing someone its not for Ur happiness so either way Ur not happy.....

So today am talking about stop pleasing everyone and live your life guys we just have one life why should we waste pleasing others....

• START SAYING NO:
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 The first thing u should learn is saying no to people.. I know saying no to people is a difficult thing but that's the best thing u can do to stop being a people pleaser...  Just start saying Ur reasons for not wanting something or going somewhere...Say No in a way that feels good to you,but in a way that is Strong.

Stop giving excuses and be honest and give a truthful reason that should not be rude on their face........For the first few times saying No might be difficult or might feel guilty but thats okay its the better feeling then doing something which u don't like...  if u keep doing this that person may find other solution for their problems or find some one to hangout with..

• YOU DON'T HAVE TO LIKE EVERYONE & EVERYONE DOESN'T HAVE TO LIKE YOU:
  

Yes in this world every individual has their own character to play, each one is different ,why others take your loved ones u'll get so many good things which u like in them and at the same time u find many negatives as well... That doesn't mean u don't like that person u just don't like a particular thing about that person thats okay,no one is perfect.... The same way u can't please everyone everytime just be yourself If they don't like u thats their problem u don't need to change untill if Ur not doing anything wrong.........

• AVOID PEOPLE WHO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOUR PEOPLE PLEASING TENDENCIES:
  

Many times we don't have choice then avoiding some people,some people just take advantage of your people pleasing which sometime U'll come to know and u can't do anything but I'll say just keep them away or let them go away from your life... They will deliberately push u,no matter how many times u say no.....If its not possible to let them go from your life just maintain a healthy distance from them......

• SET YOUR BOUNDARIES:
  

Before setting your boundries first make a note of things u have done which u doesn't like doing it and make sure that Ur not doing it again... If u don't want to do it, don't do it make it in ur mind... Every one has their own boundries for them self which things to do and not to do now set boundries to say no to things which are against your honesty, to negetive people or negetive energy..

• DO SOMETHING WHICH U LIKE AND NEVER DONE IT:
  

We all have some thing in our life which we have never told anyone or done something which we like thinking what people think.....Start with some small things like color Ur hair, have a pearcing.. Just be happy and love yourself  

I have article on love your self click the link above on love yourself...